I’m all too familiar with the excuse for not forgiving. I can’t forgive because I’m right and “they” are wrong! It feels like it would be much easier to let go of hard feelings if the other party’s actions were something we could condone. It just seems to kill us to let go of our need to be right.
Forgiving a humble and repentant offender is one thing but forgiving someone who doesn’t acknowledge any wrong and perhaps even continues it is quite another. We feel as if we would be letting the other party off the hook if we were to let go and truly forgive.
Well…perhaps the opposite is true. Perhaps we would let ourselves off the hook!
Freeing ourselves from the snare of bitterness, hate, fear, rage, obsession, revenge and judgment. Forgiveness is for me – for us! Forgiveness heals and releases us from the torture of our negative projections which simply bounce back and fester in our own souls. Forgiveness is freedom.
For the benefit of others as well as yourself, extend it!